I take a lot of “content” in each week. I love to read and I am constantly listening to podcasts at work, on my commute and at home. Some things really stand out, and to be honestly, I rarely get a chance to reflect or talk about how much I love certain stories with which I’ve interacted because I’m awkward and I don’t want to force others to listen to my nerdy ranting. Since this is a place where I’m supposed to be nerdy and rant… here we go!
The three best stories I experienced in the last week are below. There’s a lot of women writing and suffering this week so… sorry about that? I’m not sorry. I got a lot out of reading these things this week.
A Tale Of Two Sylvias: On the Letters Cover Controversy by Nichole LeFebvre
I ran across this article randomly on Facebook and it gave me so much to think about. How women are portrayed is important to me, but trying to solve inequality by holding women to impossibly high standards isn’t the answer. Basically truth isn’t simple, but this article was an interesting way to explore it and it made me want to read more Sylvia Plath.
Emily Dickinson’s Legacy Is Incomplete Without Discussing Trauma by Isabel C. Legarda
My mom and I are pretty big Emily Dickinson fans. We’ve visited the home she spent most of her too-short life in (it’s a good museum and you should go). This was a thought I’d never had about Emily Dickinson but the author does point out some compelling evidence of trauma in her life. As a mental health advocate, there was a lot to thinking about here. And we’ll never know what was going on behind the scene in Dickinson’s life, but if people who are struggling can find something new in her writing because of this perspective, it’s a valuable one. It makes me sad for her and all the women who have suffered and are suffering under oppression and wrote beautiful things.
What Else by Carolyn Locke
I love fall. I love poetry. I think we all have a lot to learn from both. I’ve been turning to poetry a lot for dealing with the sadness but also beauty that persists in our world. Fall provides some insight into that intersection as well, because leaves die so beautifully. In this poem with just four words all this is summed up in my heart: “impossible light, improbable hope.” I hope you find impossible light and improbable hope this season.
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Sunday is World Suicide Prevention Day. It can be hard to raise awareness when you’re an awkward girl and you don’t just want to bring suicide up in your everyday conversations. These conversations are especially hard if you have a personal connection to suicide loss or if you’re worried that you won’t know how suicide has affected others around you.
I personally wanted to step up my participation this year so I came up with some ideas for participating that will work for all kinds of awkward people.
- Donated to a reputable organization. Consider To Write Love On Her Arms, The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention or The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
- Wear some swag. I’ll be wearing my TWLOHA “Stay” Shirt.
- Random acts of kindness. Leave friendly notes, info cards, kindness rocks etc that reference the hashtag #WSPD.
- Tell your story if you have one and you feel ready. It can help you and it can help others to know they aren’t alone.
- Amplify the stories of others. If you don’t have your own story or aren’t comfortable sharing it yet, share the stories of others who have decided to share.
- Remind people in your life that you love them and that their existence matters to them.
- Learn the signs that someone might commit suicide and what you can do to help.
- Share facts and stats about mental health and suicide on social media. Here’s a great resource for that.
- Share a selfie. Tell us why you were made for and use the hashtags #WSPD and #StopSuicide.
- Take an assessment. If you struggle but have never pursued a diagnosis, try starting with a basic assessment.
- Become an Advocate. There are lots of places you can advocate, including signing this petition to show a Pittsburgh college reconsider Honor Code language that promotes mental health stigma.
When stressed by school, you might not have time to exercise or wait a little too long to go to the doctor about your cough. Similarly, sometimes it’s easy to ignore mental health concerns when you’re busy with school. Mental health issues are becoming a larger and larger issue on college campuses and students often don’t know how to begin addressing their concerns with their mental health. Some colleges are more supportive than others, but regardless, there are attainable ways for you to get any help you need. You’re not alone.
Self-harm is estimated to affect up to a third of college students. One in 12 college students admit to having had suicidal thoughts. My college friends and I had many encounters with mental health in school. Dealing with these situations was stressful and at times alienating. I also learned from these experiences that help is out there. Here are a couple of places you can start if you’re struggling with your mental health.
- SELF-EVALUATE. Think about the feelings and difficulties you are experiencing. Are you overwhelmed? Frequently and uncontrollably depressed? Having trouble sleeping? Write these feelings and any potential triggers down. This resource will make it much easier to talk with providers about your experience. ULifeline provides a free, online quiz that allows you to get a general self evaluation of your mental health. This doesn’t replace a visit to a professional in any way, but it’s a good place to start. Psychology Today also has a mental health evaluation if you’d prefer not to enter any information about yourself.
- EXPLORE YOUR SCHOOL’S RESOURCES. You can start by searching online if you’re nervous about asking someone. Your R.A. or school wellness center will likely be able to help you learn more… in fact, that’s what they’re there for. ULifeline also allows you to search for services by school, although it’s not comprehensive. Starting with the services your school offers is the most convenient route since they are set up for students. If you don’t feel like these services are working for you, they can also refer you. Some schools offer counseling at a reduced price from grad students in their counselling programs. This is an affordable option to look into if it’s available in your area.
- LOOK FOR OUTSIDE HELP. If your school doesn’t offer sufficient services or you want to avoid them for any reason, you can look for help outside the school. Psychology Today has a great listing of therapists and psychologists depending on your needs. SAMHSA’s National Helpline, 1-800-662-HELP (4357), provides 24/7 info to help you connect with treatment options. Checking what is covered by your insurance can also help. You can also try online/ text therapy if you’re in a pinch, such as Talkspace and Better Help. If you are in immediate need of help and feel like you want to end your life, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline can be reached at 1-800-273-TALK(8255) or you can text the Crisis Text Line by sending CONNECT to 741741. These are good numbers to have written down somewhere in case you need them or are with someone who needs them. Both are available 24/7, free and confidential.
- GIVE IT TIME. Finding treatment that works can be difficult with mental illnesses. The process can be scary and it can feel so hard, especially as you’re also trying to keep up with your life at college. Take the time to invest in your health and you may help prevent a major, debilitating crisis. It’s important that you give the process time. It may take a couple of trys to find the right therapist/provider. It’s common to take more than one try to get the right fit. Don’t be discouraged, your comfort is important and this is worth the time. Also, talk to your psychologist/psychiatrists about any issues you experience with medicines and treatments. This will involve going out of your comfort zone but it’s all part of the process of finding something that works for your needs.Many antidepressants and other mental health treatments take 4-6 weeks to reach full effect and some can have some temporary side effects when first starting that you’ll eventually adjust to.
- STAY HOPEFUL. You are not alone in this process. Hope is real and help is out there. It may help to read stories of others going through similar challenges. You can find such stories on the To Write Love On Her Arms Blog and The Mighty. You can find many supportive groups online and there might even be some in your area. But if you aren’t ready for a public support group, virtual options are out there too. Knowing you aren’t alone and that others have gotten through their darkest times can be just the seed of hope you need to get through another day.
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